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It could always be worse.. August 30, 2012

After a break up a few years ago, I turned quite spiritual and read a lot of things that made me adopt a new lifestyle..
Basically I wanted to be positive, and happy, and to help people.


I try to keep these going on a daily basis –  but you cant help but get down sometimes when you’re face with people who are the exact opposite of this, and in turn you think negatively.
The Motto’s that I have are “don’t complain about it unless you’re doing something to fix it”, “There is always someone worse of than you”, “you’d rather regret doing something than regret not doing something and the generic “do unto others that you want on to you  ” – I think you could live a pretty good life if you remember these.


With my new diagnoses, i’ve explained it to people/healthcare people have talked about it with a compassionate tone, which is lovely, but through out the unknown pain and tiredness, I just keep on going along and sucking it up, trying to not complain about it (unless I couldn’t move that day) –  i’ve had it for so long that I am infact used to it –  with now knowing what it is, all it means is I can better understand it and explain it to people when someone might make a comment of you’re lazy today etc… And even though I probably have a lot harder time than the average joe, I am still under the understanding that there is people worse of than me. I still try and go out of my way to help others, and being the photographer that I am I want to be able to help people with my skill regardless of my situation.


Take this guy for instance – he has Ehler-Danlos Syndrome – this is in the same family of what I have, but a lot worse –  and hes still trucking along best he can 🙂


I recently wrote a book with the online mothers group I belong to –  the main drive behind this was because of how my pregnancy was and how ‘the system’ convinced me i’d be fine and convinced me of other things that would happen along my pregnancy, which gave me comfort, and then to find out none of it happened just made me want to get my story out there of how my pregnancy was(and 34 other mums contributed as well), and to let anyone else who’s feeling alone in a situation to feel comfort in knowing that they weren’t actually alone (my book)


I don’t want to change the world, but my main goal with anything I do is that I want to make sure one person can benefit from something I do, even if its just telling the busy coffee maker at the local cafe that ‘s/he’s doing a good job’. I surround myself with people who I love and bring out the best in me. I would do anything for them, and would only hope to get the same in return. Of course i’m going to have breaking points from time to time, but because of the people I surround myself with, I can communicate how I feel/get it off my chest and this helps me a lot.


Life is a journey, enjoy it!


Photographers August 18, 2011

Filed under: Short Advice — The Anonymous Mum @ 3:13 am
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We are very lucky that we are photographers ourselves and we can snap awesome photos of our MiniMan anytime we want but most of you wont have that luxury –  so here are some tips when searching for maternity/baby/kid photographers

Maternity Photos:

-The best time to book is 30-35 weeks – you’ll have your awesome baby bump and not look like you’ve given up/want this thing out now
-Don’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable with – if you feel uncomfortable it will show in the pictures
-Don’t pose with something that isn’t of interest – people will ask you about the pictures.. if you posing on a Harley but don’t own one/don’t want to own one, you’ll come to regret it
-Be open with the photographer –  if you want a mole or pimples that you want removed from the picture, let them know, same goes for if you have a mole that you don’t want edited out, otherwise they might not edit anything, or edit everything and it wont seem natural

Baby/Kid Photos:

-Always book around nap times –  if you have booked in advance and nap times have changed, see if they can shuffle appointments on that day
-Bring your child’s favourite toy/comfort thing –  you’ll most likely be standing on the sidelines acting like a crazy person waving their toy if they’re acting up
-Bring food and clothing changes – food for babies/kids can be used a mini bribe so it can sometimes make them sit still.. and clothing changes just in case they’re extra dribbly/throw up/you don’t trust the props that the photographer has
-If you don’t feel comfortable tell them or get out – if you feel uncomfortable with the photographer/gut feeling, get out & don’t sign anything/ask for the contract back, it can be embarrassing to do, but you wouldn’t order a drink from a bar, only to have dodgy floaters in it and not complain –  its business plain and simple

Overall Ask about all the costs before booking –  there are unfortunately a lot of creeps out there that will advertise for $100, but what they wont tell you is that all photos are above and beyond that, and I’ve heard some people say that some places charge $200 upwards for 1 printed photo
and RESEARCH RESEARCH RESEARCH, photographers will only post the best of the best on their photosite, and will only post the good reviews, so since the internet is here, use it to your advantage, at the end of the day if you get a photographer that you get along with/enjoy their style, you will get the best pictures –  if you find bad reviews saying how much they charge/how they argued over xyz/ horrible editing/ bad printing and they’re recent, chances are they haven’t changed –  but also don’t book a photographer who only does natural shots when you are wanting a fun and friendly shoot

Last but not least –  don’t hesitate about getting photos done if you’re keen to –  moments pass by so quickly when you’re pregnant/have kids that sometimes you miss the perfect points, and if you miss them, you’ll regret them.